Saturday, August 7, 2010

How do I get out of it?

Have you ever felt that whatever you do, nothing works out? Have you ever felt that you are not going to get out of your stupor? Has it taken you forever to recover from whatever is ailing you? I am not talking about physical illness. I talk about that mental state, which tires one out.

I rarely ever talk about my personal life. I wish to keep it that way. The state of my mind keeps me from reading. Or writing poetry, for that matter. I feel apathetic towards myself. I know it is not a good state but I have not been able to get myself out of my depleting thoughts. They pull me down and keep me there. I have always bounce back, no matter what. This time I haven't been able too. One would think four months is enough time to get over anything. Broken spirit, broken heart, broken anything...

I wish someone would tell me what to do. I am tired of doing it all by myself. That is speaking too much for someone who has always lived her life in her own terms, at her own pace.

However, tell me how to deal with myself. Believe me, it is not easy asking for advice.

19 comments:

bermudaonion said...

I'm sorry to say I don't have any words of wisdom. Do you have someone close to talk to? I hope you can figure out a way out of your despair.

bibliophiliac said...

This is a terrible feeling, when you lose pleasure in things you have always enjoyed...Two things help me pull myself up from that state of mind: writing, and exercise. I know that when you feel despondent the last thing you want to do is move, but it has been proven that exercise helps this mental state. Also knitting, for some reason! For me, writing has always been my lifeline; whatever I am going through, writing about it helps me process my thoughts and feelings. I would highly recommend a book called Writing as a Way of Healing by Louise DeSalvo. Hope this helps...

farmlanebooks said...

((HUGS)) I'm so sorry to hear this. I have felt like that in the past and I think the best way out is to spend time with friends. Part of my problem was that I had recently moved and so didn't have any friends close by. Getting out of the house was hard work, but I found that taking up new past times, joining new clubs etc I found some new friends and started to have fun. It was through having fun that I worked my way out of it. Without knowing your situation it is hard to give good advice, but all I can suggest is to spend time with friends/family that understand you and make you happy.

Good luck. :-)

Brooke from The Bluestocking Guide said...

Definitely go jogging or some other form of cardio. It will release endorphins. You'll feel better.

Marce said...

I was here not long ago and I understand it being hard to discuss personal stuff here or anywhere at times but you must find someone you can trust.

Also, a happy journal is always a place to start. Just write positive things that has happened to you and during these times you go back to it and helps.

If it is feeling overwhelmed I suggest looking at the small things, where you able to pay something in full even if it was a $50 bill, did your child (not sure if you have) do anything on their own like clean their room, ate all dinner, etc.

Sex and or exercise is always a good one also. You will be surprised, stand up and do some jumping jacks :-)

ds said...

It sounds as though you need someone impartial that you can really TALK to: four months is a long time to be in that state where the things that give your life meaning seem alien.
Sometimes, taking a walk helps me.
Hang in there!

Bernadette in Australia said...

If you can't talk to a friend or family member about what is troubling you then I would urge you find a professional counsellor or psychologist. Sometimes it can be easier to talk to a stranger who will not judge but will have skills in helping you through your situation. If your leg was so sore for 4 months that it was a constant pain and stopped you from doing what you want/need to do to live life as you want you would go to a doctor and this is the same thing - there is no shame in seeking help though I do understand it takes courage (trust me I have been there too).

Good luck.

Louise said...

I was going to say the same things as Bernadette. Four months is a long time, and my guess is that if you are not "just" feeling blue, then you need some pro help to find a way out. There is no shame in seeking professional counsel, and I know at least a handful of friends who have had good results with medication and therapy. If that is what it takes to make you feel good again, then that is what I suggest. Working out and eating healthy is a good way as well which others also mentioned, but if things run very deep, you MUST see someone.

If you do not feel that it rund THAT deep, I will, like the others, suggest talking about this with friends and family.

Hope you'll feel better soon.

Missy B. said...

I recently went through the same blues...I just couldn't seem to shake them. I saw a counselor on a weekly basis. Talking to someone who is impartial helps a great deal. It took some time, but it was well worth it. Talk to someone...I hope this helps.

CMash said...

A big hug. I understand...I was in that place not too long ago, and it was this new world of book blogging, that got me out of it. You should not be ashamed for reaching out, that is another great thing about blogging, meeting new bloggy friends ready to help. I agree with all the comments. Four months is too long to be in a slump. Talk to your doctor, talk to a friend that you feel comfortable with or even a bloggy friend that you have gotten to know, especially if you know why this happened and then advice can be given. I came to visit today for another reason, my mantra is everything happens for a reason, and hope this helps even if it is a little bit. Stop by my place because I have an award for you.
CMash

wisteria said...

I have been there and you can email me.
tekey girl at gmail dot com

Please...I will listen and be there. I know what it is like to feel like no one is there for you. I am

Bookventures said...

I am really sorry you're going through this slump. I wish that i had something better to offer you. I agree with everyone. Maybe you should speak to a someone, a friend maybe, someone you can trust and someone who will just listen. Or perhaps a change in scenery might just do the trick. All i know is that you just have to so something so that this feeling will stop consuming you. I truly hope you are OK.

Nise' said...

I am sorry that you are having a hard time. Asking for advice or help however hard, it the best thing you can do for yourself! I agree with those who have suggested you to find someone impartial, trustworthy and/or professional to talk with. Exercise can and will do wonders.

fredamans said...

I have no clue what to tell you, but know I care and send the biggest virtual ((((HUG)))) someone can send!

Stephanie said...

I have suffered depression before, and it's one of the worst things I know. I agree with all the advice that's been given. I have found that exercise, journaling, and spending time with friends helps most. You might also want to check in with a doctor. It's always a good idea to rule out physical reasons for low energy and sadness -- it's easy to check for low thyroid function and other things. (((HUGS)))

Tea said...

I'm not good at giving advice. I want to say something special and helpful. I can say that you're a special person. I feel it anytime I see your name or visit your blog. Some time we are unable to know or feel or see how much we mean to other people. Please take care.

Teddy Rose said...

It sounds like depression to me and I have so been there. To be honest, I have been on antidepressants for a very long time. Just talking didn't work for me but the meds have helped a lot. The only thing is that it took well over a year to find the meds that would work for me.

Is there anyone you can talk to or would you be willing to talk to your Dr. about it?

The key for me once I started to feel better and to stay better is to lead an active life. I need to make sure I get out of my house and socialize. Exercise has also helped.

Serena said...

I think exercise or just getting out and about will help. Also think deeply and clearly about the reasons behind the funk...is it the job, friends, family, etc. Try to make a plan to address those issues.

Writing is usually my outlet for that as well, even if it is just journaling...and not poetry. I hope that helps.

readerbuzz said...

Please don't think I'm an expert, but I've been studying happiness for a couple of years and I have several ideas for getting out of a mild funk.

1. Exercise.
2. Write down three things each day (can't be the same) for which you are grateful.
3. Shift your thinking about things that are bothering you....What are the good parts?
4. Laugh.
5. Don't hesitate to see a doctor and take medicine to lift your mood.

And, if you don't mind, I will pray for you. So many people love you and care about you, more than you could ever guess.